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Who am I? What's in this blog?

Hi! I'm Ola.

I'm a polyamorous, atheist geek. My partner Danny and I work as software engineers at Google (after 3 years, I still can't believe I pulled that one off! :-)) I have lived most of my life in Israel -- we moved to Canada in 2011. I'm enjoying Canada immensely!

Among my hobbies: Brazilian Jiu Jitsu -- although the sport is such an important part of my life that I doubt if "hobbie" is the right word for it. Unfortunately, I discovered this amazing art very late (aged 28); also unfortunate is the fact that I completely lack any sort of talent or natural instinct for it... :-(
Here are my BJJ diaries. I am currently on break, though (I am not yet ready to admit quitting...)

Another hobby that I completely immersed myself into lately is No-Limit Texas Hold'em. It's kinda like BJJ -- only I can kick some ass at it :-)

Other things I like: books, board games, films, talking with friends.

I started this blog in the beginning of 2009. Warning: it is about ME ME ME ME ME – and my opinions on all kinds of stuff. Its main purpose is to offer a glimpse into my soul to anyone interested. It is intended primarily for people who are already for some reason curious about me and want to get to know me better.

My reasons for blogging are mostly internal:

  • When I write something down, I'm forced to clarify and structure it, which really helps to see loopholes in my arguments; that way I can reevaluate my opinion and/or construct a better defense.

  • Writing down thoughts has the advantage of keeping them around. Otherwise, I simply forget.

  • I expect my opinions to evolve with time, and for this reason it is particularly important for me to keep them around – in order to force me to confront my mistakes, so I could understand what caused them. There is a strong unconscious bias to change opinions "retroactively" in order to avoid ever admitting being wrong; I want to fight that bias.

  • Often, it is important to write down something that I feel strongly about simply in order to get rid of it and let go. If I don't, it just keeps circulating in my head – very annoying…

  • Being able to express myself in writing is a value to me. Clear writing and clear thinking are, in my opinion, mutually reinforcing. And the only way to learn how to write is through practice. Currently each post takes me agonizingly long to write.

But there are also a few good reasons to publish my writing:

  • First of all, it allows me to put my ideas to a test. No matter how hard I try, I cannot play a good opponent to my own thoughts. In that aspect, nothing can replace a real, smart person who disagrees with me.

  • Some of my opinions are far from the social norm, and it is important for me to be out of the closet and to stand for what I believe. I won't shove my opinions down anyone's throat, but I won't hide them, either.

  • In general, it is important to make unorthodox opinions heard – so that other people who share them see that they are not alone. With time, this is what causes social norms to shift.

  • And finally, having a blog might help me to connect with people and to make new friends. At the very least, I intend to work in that direction… :-)

Important: what this blog is probably NOT going to be is a journal (as funny as it sounds, this being LJ). The question that this blog is trying to answer is: "Who are you, Ola?" rather than "What's up, Ola?" For the latter question, I use Google+ (used to be Facebook, but not anymore :-)). The purpose of this blog is to allow people to determine if they should care what's up with me in the first place. So, I'd recommend to use tags to browse it. I use tags to categorize my own posts, and memories to categorize posts by other people that I liked.

I don't expect many comments (if you actually read this far, you're an exception… :-)), but if you want to say something, I'd love to hear from you! Feel free to comment on any post, no matter how old; especially if you disagree. I know, I'd love most to hear from people who agree with me; but what I need is to hear from people who don't.

Have fun!


( 18 comments — Leave a comment )
Feb. 17th, 2009 10:10 am (UTC)
Glad you're here - at last! :-)
Aug. 26th, 2011 12:56 am (UTC)
What's the point? You aren't any longer :-(
Feb. 17th, 2009 03:14 pm (UTC)
good luck!
hi Ola,
It took long time, but now the entire univers will enjoy your beautiful mind.
Good luck!
Running to read your posts.
Feb. 18th, 2009 09:46 am (UTC)
Re: good luck!
The entire universe, LOL :-)) Yeah, I can imagine the little green guys with antennae somewhere around Alpha Centauri going "Wow, check this out, dude!" :-)

To everyone else: this was Tzachi Bar, my best friend, an absolutely wonderful guy -- to enjoy his beautiful mind, go to http://cafe.themarker.com/view.php?u=22041
(but you must understand Hebrew...)
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Feb. 25th, 2009 06:08 am (UTC)
welcome! The more the merrier!
Привет, красавица! Чудное свила ты гнёздышко здесь, я вижу!
Нашего полку прибыло! Ура! Но, как говорится, "видит око, но..." - увы! - Английский, да ещё сленговый - с ума сойти. Охти мне! Ну, ничего, ничего,я и просто так, не понимая, буду сюда заходить. Нюхать... (Как гоголевские крысы)
А тебе, солнышко - удачи!
Чмок-чмок! :)
Feb. 25th, 2009 08:42 am (UTC)
Re: welcome! The more the merrier!
Ой, пришла, пришла родная моя! А у меня-то, как всегда, не прибрано *хватается за голову*!

А насчет чужеземной мовы -- так ты звони, звони, любимая! Все переведу -- честное пионерское!

Чмок! :-)
Feb. 25th, 2009 08:46 am (UTC)
Да я и сама... потихонечку, полегонечку. :)
Jan. 26th, 2010 10:06 pm (UTC)
i love bjj too... working hard to get good. let's be friends?
Jan. 27th, 2010 06:53 am (UTC)

From your blog, you sound really sweet! :-)
How long have you been training? Where? What belt level are you?

P.S. I wholeheartedly wish you good luck in all your journeys and fights -- especially your most important battle, with cancer. My thoughts are with you. I don't know you yet, so I don't know if this will mean much to you -- but I have a good feeling about this one. You have a long and fascinating life ahead of you.
Jan. 31st, 2010 02:32 pm (UTC)
I have been training for just over a year. I am a blue belt. When I wasn't sick I trained every day (almost) and often twice a day... So, I made a lot of progress at the beginning. Progress is slower now, I train a few times a week now. But I try to think about and study bjj, books and dvds...
We are really lucky in that our gym always brings in high/top level instructors which helps with learning too.

You are one of the sweetest people I've "befriended" so for on LJ. I am so glad to be getting to know you better.

Thank you for your encouraging words.
Jan. 24th, 2011 12:41 pm (UTC)
Всем привет, Какое занимательное сообщение
Jan. 24th, 2011 12:55 pm (UTC)
И вам привет, добрый человек! :-)
Jim Balter
May. 24th, 2011 09:18 am (UTC)
I read your two comments in Jen's Dr. Eller thread -- one about studies showing universal unconscious bias in favor of attractive people, and the other about the likelihood that men making comments about Jen's chest were ineptly trying to do boobquake jokes -- and I was struck by our intellectual honesty and your humanity, seeking to understand rather than to blame. You have so much going for you ... have a great journey!
May. 24th, 2011 09:22 am (UTC)
Wow, thank you! *blushing*
Oleksandra Pravednyk
Mar. 17th, 2012 03:45 pm (UTC)
Polyamory Presentation
Mrs. Ola,
My name is Oleksandra Pravednyk. I am a senior at high school and for my graduation project making a presentation on polyamory. Unfortunately, there aren't really many personal examples of polyamory experiences on the web, and I heard from another blogger that you are the person to go to about such experiences. Obviously, you're thinking why should I give any information of my personal life to a person I don't even know face to face? Well, I'm really interested in showing to my classmates what this really is. However, I fully understand if you don't want to share any information, but would be thankful if you could point me to other sources. Please, I would be grateful, if you could answer this post by emailing me on aleks_pr@yahoo.co.uk an answer to this request.
Jul. 24th, 2016 02:57 pm (UTC)
Stumbled on blog
Hola Ola!

I just stumbled upon your blog & read your posts for a while...

Very interesting & honestly raw in all the good ways one connects with a new writer.

Sincere best,

Jul. 25th, 2016 06:22 pm (UTC)
Re: Stumbled on blog
Thank you! Much obliged!
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